Boundaries

They and you have become interwoven.

You feel like everyone else’s issues seep into you. You have to help them feel better if they are sad or angry. Taking care of others’ emotions before your own is a standard procedure.

To keep the peace, you walk on eggshells. The lines between the two of you feel so blurred.

First thing in the morning, you wake up and feel a jab; you realize you already feel like you must please someone. You always hold someone else’s opinion higher than your own. You feel so confined to this way of thinking. How do you jump out of the cycle? The habit has become so ingrained.

The tears want to flow, but you hold them back and push through. Sometimes others push opinions on you, and you want to push them away, but it’s hard. You want to speak up and let them know that this is not ok. But keeping them happy overrules this desire every time.

Setting boundaries is a necessity.

You want the relationship to be healthy and to work.

There are limits to what you can give, and respect for each other’s emotions is essential in any relationship. In your heart, you know this to be true.

The relationship could be much healthier if you could better communicate your needs to others. Or if you could have a way to draw the line in your mind about whose opinion matters most.

At this point, you need an alternative solution because your needs are essential.

Set it straight!

You must be healthy and whole to be there for them. Taking care of yourself and having boundaries will give room and space for relationships to grow.

Therapy can help you set things straight by increasing your understanding of how to set boundaries. We can work together to develop skills that will help you be more assertive in communicating your needs. You will learn skills to deal with those negative emotions when setting limits.

Everyone needs personal space to grow and be an individual with unique needs. We need to voice our concerns without fear that others will reject us. Through therapy, you can learn to do this positively.

You can find balance in your life with relationships. You can set boundaries and be more of your true self.

Contact me today, and let’s start working on your boundaries.